Is it something i said? sense of humor and partner embarrassment

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 28, Issue 3, 2011, Pages 383-405

  Hall, Jeffrey A ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS   (United States)

Author keywords

coorientation; embarrassment; humor; long term relationships; offensive jokes; relationship specific face

Indexed keywords

EID: 79955444361     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407510384422     Document Type: Article

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