The first sight of love: Relationship-defining memories and marital satisfaction across adulthood

Memory

Volumn 18, Issue 7, 2010, Pages 730-742

  Alea, Nicole ^a   Vick, Stephanie C ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF THE WEST INDIES   (Trinidad and Tobago)

^b UNIVERSITY OF VIRGINIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Autobiographical memory; Gender; Lifespan; Marital satisfaction; Relationship defining memories

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AGED; AGING; ARTICLE; EMOTION; FEMALE; HUMAN; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; RECALL; SATISFACTION; SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT;

ADULT; AGED; AGED, 80 AND OVER; AGING; EMOTIONS; FEMALE; HUMANS; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; MENTAL RECALL; MIDDLE AGED; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; SEX CHARACTERISTICS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 77957234840     PISSN: 09658211     EISSN: 14640686     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/09658211.2010.506443     Document Type: Article

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