Thrice told tales: Married couples tell their stories

Thrice Told Tales: Married Couples Tell Their Stories

Volumn , Issue , 2003, Pages 1-231

  Holmberg, Diane ^a   Orbuch, Terri L ^b,c   Veroff, Joseph ^c  

^a ACADIA UNIVERSITY   (Canada)

^b OAKLAND UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9781410609359     Document Type: Book

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