Partnering across the life course: Sex, relationships, and mate selection

Journal of Marriage and Family

Volumn 72, Issue 3, 2010, Pages 557-575

  Sassler, Sharon ^a  

^a Cornell University ^*  (United States)

Author keywords

Cohabitation; Dating; Marriage; Mate selection; Relationship processes

Indexed keywords

EID: 77955536818     PISSN: 00222445     EISSN: 17413737     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2010.00718.x     Document Type: Review

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