Choosing compassionate strategies to end a relationship: Effects of compassionate love for partner and the reason for the breakup

Social Psychology

Volumn 41, Issue 2, 2010, Pages 66-75

  Sprecher, Susan ^a   Zimmerman, Corinne ^a   Abrahams, Erin M ^a  

^a ILLINOIS STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Breakup strategies; Close relationships; Compassionate love; Relationship dissolution

Indexed keywords

EID: 77952342850     PISSN: 18649335     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1027/1864-9335/a000010     Document Type: Article

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