Giving and receiving communal responsiveness as love

The New Psychology of Love

Volumn , Issue , 2006, Pages 200-221

  Clark, Margaret S ^a   Monin, Joan K ^b  

^a YALE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b CARNEGIE MELLON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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