What goes up may come down: Sex and gendered patterns in relational dissolution

Handbook of Divorce and Relationship Dissolution

Volumn , Issue , 2013, Pages 169-187

  Duck, Steve ^a   Wood, Julia T ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF IOWA   (United States)

^b University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9781315820880-18     Document Type: Chapter

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