Gay men who become fathers via surrogacy: The transition to parenthood

Journal of GLBT Family Studies

Volumn 6, Issue 2, 2010, Pages 111-141

  Bergman, Kim ^a   Rubio, Ritchie J ^b   Green, Robert Jay ^b   Padrón, Elena ^b  

^a Growing Generations   (United States)

^b ALLIANT INTERNATIONAL UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Gay fathers; Surrogacy; Transition to parenthood

Indexed keywords

EID: 77951885855     PISSN: 1550428X     EISSN: 15504298     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/15504281003704942     Document Type: Article

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