Don't Ask, Don't Tell (Your Mom and Dad): Disclosure and Nondisclosure in Adolescent-Parent Relationships

What Can Parents Do?: New Insights into the Role of Parents in Adolescent Problem Behavior

Volumn , Issue , 2008, Pages 65-87

  Smetana, Judith G ^a   Metzger, Aaron ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER   (United States)

Author keywords

Adolescent parent relationships; Child disclosure, parental behavioral control, and parental solicitation; Closeness, attachment, and intimacy; Conduct disorders, juvenile delinquency, drug and alcohol; moral judgments and social conventions; Parental supervision and monitoring; Private thoughts and feelings; Self disclosure and intimacy; Social domain theory; Social psychological and developmental research

Indexed keywords

EID: 77649179555     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1002/9780470774113.ch3     Document Type: Chapter

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