The surprising effect of partner flaws and qualities on romantic affect

Motivation and Emotion

Volumn 33, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 261-276

  Miron, Anca M ^a   Knepfel, David ^a   Parkinson, Sarah K ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN OSHKOSH   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS   (United States)

Author keywords

Anger; Deterrence; Emotional intensity; Love; Romantic affect

Indexed keywords

EID: 71349083271     PISSN: 01467239     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s11031-009-9138-0     Document Type: Article

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