Self-esteem and communal responsiveness toward a flawed partner: The fair-weather care of low-self-esteem individuals

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 35, Issue 6, 2009, Pages 698-712

  Lemay, Edward P ^a,c   Clark, Margaret S ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NEW HAMPSHIRE   (United States)

^b YALE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF NEW HAMPSHIRE   (United States)

Author keywords

Basking in reflected glory; Cutting off reflected failure; Perceived partner responsiveness; Projection; Reflection; Self esteem; Social support

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; COMPARATIVE STUDY; COOPERATION; COURTSHIP; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INDIVIDUALITY; MALE; MOTIVATION; PERCEPTION; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL CLASS; SOCIAL DESIRABILITY; SOCIAL SUPPORT;

ADULT; COOPERATIVE BEHAVIOR; COURTSHIP; FEMALE; HUMANS; INDIVIDUALITY; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; MOTIVATION; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL CLASS; SOCIAL DESIRABILITY; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY; SOCIAL SUPPORT;

EID: 65549130111     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167209332964     Document Type: Article

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