Am "I" more important than "we"? Couples' word use in instant messages

Personal Relationships

Volumn 15, Issue 4, 2008, Pages 407-424

  Slatcher, Richard B ^a   Vazire, Simine ^b   Pennebaker, James W ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^b WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT AUSTIN   (United States)

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EID: 57349185975     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: 14756811     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1475-6811.2008.00207.x     Document Type: Article

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