For Better and for Worse: Everyday Social Comparisons Between Romantic Partners

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 95, Issue 5, 2008, Pages 1180-1201

  Pinkus, Rebecca T ^a   Lockwood, Penelope ^a   Schimmack, Ulrich ^a   Fournier, Marc A ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

Author keywords

affective responses; couples; romantic relationships; self evaluation; social comparison

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADULT; ARTICLE; EMOTION; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; MARRIAGE; MICROCOMPUTER; MIDDLE AGED; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL DESIRABILITY; SOCIAL DOMINANCE;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADULT; COMPUTERS, HANDHELD; DOMINANCE-SUBORDINATION; EMOTIONS; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL DESIRABILITY;

EID: 56349131694     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.95.5.1180     Document Type: Article

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