Third-party forgiveness: (Not) forgiving your close other's betrayer

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 34, Issue 3, 2008, Pages 407-418

  Green, Jeffrey D ^a   Burnette, Jeni L ^b   Davis, Jody L ^a  

^a VIRGINIA COMMONWEALTH UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF RICHMOND   (United States)

Author keywords

Apology; Attribution; Commitment; Forgiveness; Third party

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; ATTITUDE; BEHAVIOR; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LOVE; MALE; RECUMBENCY; TRUST;

ADULT; ATTITUDE; DECEPTION; EMPATHY; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTENTION; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LOVE; MALE; TRUST;

EID: 38949107443     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167207311534     Document Type: Article

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