Don't apologize unless you mean it: A laboratory investigation of forgiveness and retaliation

Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology

Volumn 23, Issue 4, 2004, Pages 532-564

  Zechmeister, Jeanne S ^a,b   Garcia, Sofia ^a   Romero, Catherine ^a   Vas, Shona N ^a  

^a LOYOLA UNIVERSITY CHICAGO   (United States)

^b NONE   (United States)

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EID: 4444368181     PISSN: 07367236     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1521/jscp.23.4.532.40309     Document Type: Article

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