Victim-perpetrator differences in reports of hurtful events

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 23, Issue 4, 2006, Pages 587-608

  Feeney, Judith A ^a   Hill, Andrew ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF QUEENSLAND   (Australia)

Author keywords

Communication; Conflict; Hurt feelings; Relational transgressions, victim perpetrator differences

Indexed keywords

EID: 33749619825     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407506065985     Document Type: Article

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