Love and personal relationships: Navigating on the border between the ideal and the real

Journal for the Theory of Social Behaviour

Volumn 34, Issue 2, 2004, Pages 199-209

  Djikic, Maja ^a   Oatley, Keith ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

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EID: 2942633336     PISSN: 00218308     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.0021-8308.2004.00243.x     Document Type: Review

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