Balancing instrumental and identity goals in relationships: The role of request directness and request persistence in the selection of sexual resistance strategies

Communication Monographs

Volumn 67, Issue 3, 2000, Pages 284-305

  Afifi, Walid A ^a   Lee, Josephine W ^b  

^a PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b NONE

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EID: 0040958575     PISSN: 03637751     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/03637750009376511     Document Type: Article

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