Sex and the attraction process: Lessons from science (and shakespeare) on lust, love, chastity, and fidelity

The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships

Volumn , Issue , 2004, Pages 115-133

  Regan, Pamela C ^a  

^a CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9781410610249-13     Document Type: Chapter

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