Making and Keeping Friends: The Importance of Being Similar

Child Development Perspectives

Volumn 11, Issue 4, 2017, Pages 282-289

  Laursen, Brett ^a  

^a FLORIDA ATLANTIC UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

friendship; influence; peers

Indexed keywords

EID: 85028395935     PISSN: 17508592     EISSN: 17508606     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/cdep.12246     Document Type: Article

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