Love’s rite: Same-sex marriage in India and the west

Love's Rite: Same-Sex Marriage in India and the West

Volumn , Issue , 2005, Pages 1-274

  Vanita, Ruth ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF MONTANA   (United States)

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DOI: 10.1057/9781403981608     Document Type: Book

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