Perfectionism and Fear of Intimacy: Implications for Relationships

The Family Journal

Volumn 12, Issue 4, 2004, Pages 368-374

  Martin, James L ^a   Ashby, Jeffrey S ^a  

^a GEORGIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

fear of intimacy; perfectionism; perfectionists; relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 84998010566     PISSN: 10664807     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1066480704267279     Document Type: Article

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