The process of intimacy: Similarity, understanding and gender

Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

Volumn 24, Issue 3, 1998, Pages 273-288

  Heller, Patrice E ^a,c   Wood, Beatrice ^b  

^a Council for Relationships   (United States)

^b CHILDREN S HOSPITAL OF BUFFALO   (United States)

^c NONE   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ARTICLE; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; JEW; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; OBJECT RELATION; PREDICTION AND FORECASTING; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; QUESTIONNAIRE; REPRODUCIBILITY; SELF DISCLOSURE; SEX; SPOUSE; STANDARD;

FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; JEWS; LOVE; MALE; MARRIAGE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PREDICTIVE VALUE OF TESTS; QUESTIONNAIRES; REPRODUCIBILITY OF RESULTS; SELF DISCLOSURE; SEX; SPOUSES;

EID: 0032111827     PISSN: 0194472X     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.1998.tb01085.x     Document Type: Article

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