The Poetics of Parent-Son Encounters Following Negative Parental Reactions to the Disclosure of Gay Identity

Journal of Humanistic Psychology

Volumn 55, Issue 1, 2015, Pages 30-52

  Machado, Silvio ^a  

^a Sanville Institute for Clinical Social Work Psychotherapy   (United States)

Author keywords

coming out; disclosure of gay identity; gay; gay identity formation; gay men; poetic inquiry; queer; research poetry; sexual minority

Indexed keywords

EID: 84911880917     PISSN: 00221678     EISSN: 1552650X     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0022167814522911     Document Type: Article

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