Emotional Intelligence, Relationship Quality, and Partner Selection

Mating Intelligence: Sex, Relationships, and the Mind’s Reproductive System

Volumn , Issue , 2007, Pages 263-282

  Casey, James J ^a   Garrett, James ^b   Brackett, Marc A ^a   Rivers, Susan ^a  

^a YALE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b Howard Hughes Medical Institute   (United States)

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EID: 84909367453     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4324/9780203809952-20     Document Type: Chapter

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