When Friends Have Other Friends: Friendship Jealousy in Childhood and Early Adolescence

Handbook of Jealousy: Theory, Research, and Multidisciplinary Approaches

Volumn , Issue , 2010, Pages 516-546

  Parker, Jeffrey G ^a   Kruse, Sara A ^a   Aikins, Julie Wargo ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ALABAMA   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CONNECTICUT   (United States)

Author keywords

Friendship jealousy and intra and interpersonal adjustment, greater loneliness and dissatisfaction with peer experiences; Friendship jealousy in childhood and adolescence, conceptualization as negative cognitive, emotional, and behavioral reaction; Friendship jealousy in childhood and early adolescence, when friends have other friends; Individual differences in proneness to friendship jealousy, existence of individual differences in vulnerability to jealousy; Origins of individual differences in friendship jealousy

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EID: 84885554596     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1002/9781444323542.ch22     Document Type: Chapter

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