Why the father wound matters: Consequences for male mental health and the father-son relationship

Child Abuse Review

Volumn 22, Issue 3, 2013, Pages 194-208

  Miller, Eric D ^a  

^a KENT STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Father roles; Father wound; Father son relationship; Fathering

Indexed keywords

EID: 84879410527     PISSN: 09529136     EISSN: 10990852     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1002/car.2219     Document Type: Article

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