How Needing You Changes Me: The Influence of Attachment Anxiety on Self-concept Malleability in Romantic Relationships

Self and Identity

Volumn 11, Issue 3, 2012, Pages 386-408

  Slotter, Erica B ^a   Gardner, Wendi L ^b  

^a VILLANOVA UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Adult attachment; Identity; Romantic relationships; Self concept

Indexed keywords

EID: 84863507552     PISSN: 15298868     EISSN: 15298876     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/15298868.2011.591538     Document Type: Article

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