"Let My Fingers Do the Talking": Sexting and Infidelity in Cyberspace

Sexuality and Culture

Volumn 15, Issue 3, 2011, Pages 217-239

  Wysocki, Diane Kholos ^a   Childers, Cheryl D ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NEBRASKA AT KEARNEY   (United States)

^b WASHBURN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Cybersex; Infidelity; Internet; Online dating; Online Survey; Sexting

Indexed keywords

EID: 79960133081     PISSN: 10955143     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s12119-011-9091-4     Document Type: Article

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