Talking to teens about sex: Mothers negotiate resistance, discomfort, and ambivalence

Sexuality Research and Social Policy

Volumn 7, Issue 4, 2010, Pages 310-322

  Elliott, Sinikka ^a  

^a NORTH CAROLINA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Abstinence; Adolescence; Family sexual communication; Gender; Sex education; Sexual subjectivity; Teen sexuality

Indexed keywords

EID: 79954451435     PISSN: 18689884     EISSN: 15536610     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s13178-010-0023-0     Document Type: Article

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