Can you help me become the "Me" I want to be? The role of goal pursuit in friendship formation

Self and Identity

Volumn 10, Issue 2, 2011, Pages 231-247

  Slotter, Erica B ^a   Gardner, Wendi L ^a  

^a NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Friendship formation; Goal pursuit; Self identity; Social relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 79952525335     PISSN: 15298868     EISSN: 15298876     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/15298868.2010.482767     Document Type: Article

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