Knowing when to shut up: Do relationship reflections help or hurt relationship satisfaction?

Social Relationships: Cognitive, Affective, and Motivational Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2008, Pages 115-129

  Acitelli, Linda K ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF HOUSTON   (United States)

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EID: 79551471582     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4324/9780203888124     Document Type: Chapter

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