Paying to Belong: When Does Rejection Trigger Ingratiation?

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 99, Issue 5, 2010, Pages 802-823

  Romero Canyas, Rainer ^a   Downey, Geraldine ^a   Reddy, Kavita S ^a   Rodriguez, Sylvia ^a   Cavanaugh, Timothy J ^a,b   Pelayo, Rosemary ^a  

^a Columbia University ^*  (United States)

^b CATHOLIC UNIVERSITY OF AMERICA   (United States)

Author keywords

Conformity; Money; Rejection; Sensitivity to rejection; Sex differences

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; ATTITUDE; BEHAVIOR; FEMALE; GIFT GIVING; GROUP PROCESS; HOSTILITY; HUMAN; MALE; MOTIVATION; PEER GROUP; QUESTIONNAIRE; SEX DIFFERENCE; SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY;

BEHAVIOR; FEMALE; GIFT GIVING; GROUP PROCESSES; HOSTILITY; HUMANS; MALE; MOTIVATION; PEER GROUP; QUESTIONNAIRES; REJECTION (PSYCHOLOGY); SEX FACTORS; SOCIAL CONFORMITY; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 77958592735     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0020013     Document Type: Article

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