My mother: My best friend? Adults' relationships with significant others across the lifespan

Journal of Adult Development

Volumn 16, Issue 4, 2009, Pages 239-249

  Buhl, Heike M ^a  

^a FRIEDRICH SCHILLER UNIVERSITY JENA   (Germany)

Author keywords

Conflict; Family; Friends; Power; Support

Indexed keywords

EID: 76049111539     PISSN: 10680667     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s10804-009-9070-2     Document Type: Article

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