"Why didn't you just ask?" Underestimating the discomfort of help-seeking

Journal of Experimental Social Psychology

Volumn 46, Issue 2, 2010, Pages 402-409

  Bohns, Vanessa K ^a   Flynn, Francis J ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

^b STANFORD UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Altruism; Egocentrism; Help seeking; Perspective taking; Prosocial behavior

Indexed keywords

EID: 75749115990     PISSN: 00221031     EISSN: 10960465     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1016/j.jesp.2009.12.015     Document Type: Article

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