Single by choice? Assessing and understanding voluntary singlehood among mature gay men

Journal of Homosexuality

Volumn 56, Issue 4, 2009, Pages 499-531

  Hostetler, Andrew J ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF MASSACHUSETTS LOWELL   (United States)

Author keywords

Choice; Gay men; Late adulthood; Life course; Middle adulthood; Perceived control; Relationship status; Self determination; Single

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AGED; ARTICLE; DECISION MAKING; EGO; FEMALE; HOMOSEXUALITY; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INTERVIEW; LESBIAN; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PILOT STUDY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; PSYCHOLOGICAL MODEL; QUESTIONNAIRE; SPOUSE; STATISTICS;

ADULT; AGED; CHOICE BEHAVIOR; EGO; FEMALE; HOMOSEXUALITY, FEMALE; HOMOSEXUALITY, MALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; INTERVIEWS AS TOPIC; MALE; MARITAL STATUS; MIDDLE AGED; MODELS, PSYCHOLOGICAL; PERSONAL AUTONOMY; PILOT PROJECTS; QUESTIONNAIRES; SPOUSES;

EID: 70349567954     PISSN: 00918369     EISSN: 15403602     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/00918360902821486     Document Type: Article

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