On becoming a good enough stepmother

Clinical Social Work Journal

Volumn 37, Issue 2, 2009, Pages 128-139

  Hart, Patricia ^a,b  

^a Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition ^*  (United States)

^b Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition   (United States)

Author keywords

Good enough stepparenting; Internal parental stance; Stepmother

Indexed keywords

EID: 67349126498     PISSN: 00911674     EISSN: 15733343     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s10615-009-0202-8     Document Type: Article

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