Mourning the loss builds the bond: Primal communication between foster, adoptive, or stepmother and child

Journal of Loss and Trauma

Volumn 6, Issue 4, 2001, Pages 277-300

  Waterman, Barbara ^a  

^a Ann Martin Children's Center   (United States)

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EID: 0347669907     PISSN: 15325024     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/108114401317087806     Document Type: Article

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