When flattery gets you nowhere: Discounting positive feedback as a relationship maintenance strategy

Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science

Volumn 40, Issue 2, 2008, Pages 59-68

  Gagné, Faby ^a   Khan, Alisa ^a   Lydon, John ^a   To, Michelle ^a  

^a MCGILL UNIVERSITY   (Canada)

Author keywords

Attribution; Devaluation; Relationship maintenance; Self esteem

Indexed keywords

EID: 58149397885     PISSN: 0008400X     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0008-400X.40.2.59     Document Type: Article

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