The social context of marital happiness in Urban Indian couples: Interplay of intimacy and conflict

Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

Volumn 35, Issue 1, 2009, Pages 74-96

  Sandhya, Shaifali ^a  

^a ADLER SCHOOL OF PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGY   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; CULTURAL FACTOR; FEMALE; HAPPINESS; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; INDIA; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; PERCEPTION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; QUESTIONNAIRE; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL CLASS; SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY; SPOUSE; STATISTICS; URBAN POPULATION;

ADULT; CULTURAL CHARACTERISTICS; FEMALE; HAPPINESS; HUMANS; INDIA; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; QUESTIONNAIRES; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL CLASS; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; SOCIAL VALUES; SPOUSES; URBAN POPULATION;

EID: 58149107696     PISSN: 0194472X     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.2008.00103.x     Document Type: Article

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