Family secrets and family functioning: The case of donor assistance

Family Process

Volumn 47, Issue 4, 2008, Pages 553-566

  Berger, Roni ^a   Paul, Marilyn ^a  

^a ADELPHI UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Family functioning; Family secrets; Topic avoidance

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; CROSS-SECTIONAL STUDY; DONOR; FAMILY RELATION; FEMALE; HUMAN; INFERTILITY THERAPY; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; MALE;

ADULT; CROSS-SECTIONAL STUDIES; FAMILY RELATIONS; FEMALE; HUMANS; MALE; REPRODUCTIVE TECHNIQUES, ASSISTED; TISSUE DONORS; TRUTH DISCLOSURE; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 55949112798     PISSN: 00147370     EISSN: 15455300     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2008.00271.x     Document Type: Article

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