Taking the grand out of grandparent: Dialectical tensions in grandparent perceptions of surrogate parenting

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 25, Issue 4, 2008, Pages 671-695

  Erbert, Larry A ^a   Alemán, Melissa W ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF COLORADO   (United States)

^b JAMES MADISON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Dialectial theory; Family studies; Grandparents; Qualitative research; Surrogate parents

Indexed keywords

EID: 49749117982     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407508093785     Document Type: Article

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