The thin line between reality and imagination: Attachment orientations and the effects of relationship threats on sexual fantasies

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 34, Issue 9, 2008, Pages 1185-1199

  Birnbaum, Gurit E ^a   Svitelman, Neta ^b   Bar Shalom, Adi ^b   Porat, Omer ^b  

^a INTERDISCIPLINARY CENTER   (Israel)

^b BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

Author keywords

Attachment; Gender differences; Relationship threat; Romantic relationships; Sexual fantasy

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; COURTSHIP; EGO; FANTASY; FEMALE; HOSTILITY; HUMAN; IMAGINATION; MALE; OBJECT RELATION; PERSONALITY TEST; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SEX DIFFERENCE; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL DISTANCE; SOCIAL ISOLATION; SPOUSE;

ADULT; COURTSHIP; FANTASY; FEMALE; HOSTILITY; HUMANS; IMAGINATION; MALE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PERSONALITY INVENTORY; REALITY TESTING; SEX FACTORS; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL ALIENATION; SOCIAL DISTANCE; SPOUSES; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 49149085572     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167208319692     Document Type: Article

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