The best of ties, the worst of ties: Close, problematic, and ambivalent social relationships

Journal of Marriage and Family

Volumn 66, Issue 3, 2004, Pages 792-808

  Fingerman, Karen L ^a   Hay, Elizabeth L ^b   Birditt, Kira S ^c  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN   (United States)

Author keywords

Ambivalence; Emotion; Intergenerational relationships; Kin; Social network; Spouse

Indexed keywords

EID: 4344588775     PISSN: 00222445     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.0022-2445.2004.00053.x     Document Type: Article

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