Negotiating lesbian family identity via symbols and rituals

Journal of Family Issues

Volumn 29, Issue 1, 2008, Pages 26-47

  Suter, Elizabeth A ^a   Daas, Karen L ^b   Bergen, Karla Mason ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF DENVER   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT SAN ANTONIO   (United States)

^c Department of Biology   (United States)

Author keywords

Communication; Family; Homosexual parents; Interpersonal relations; Lesbianism; Rituals

Indexed keywords

EID: 37249000749     PISSN: 0192513X     EISSN: 15525481     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0192513X07305752     Document Type: Article

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