The best of times, the worst of times: The place of close relationships in psychology and our daily lives

Canadian Psychology

Volumn 48, Issue 1, 2007, Pages 7-18

  Perlman, Daniel ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF BRITISH COLUMBIA   (Canada)

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EID: 34147197324     PISSN: 07085591     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/cp2007003     Document Type: Article

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