When courtship persistence becomes intrusive pursuit: Comparing rejecter and pursuer perspectives of unrequited attraction

Sex Roles

Volumn 52, Issue 11-12, 2005, Pages 839-852

  Sinclair, H Colleen ^a   Frieze, Irene Hanson ^b,c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF PITTSBURGH   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF PITTSBURGH SCHOOL OF MEDICINE   (United States)

Author keywords

Comparing accounts; Courtship persistence; Rejection; Stalking; Unrequited love

Indexed keywords

EID: 24044486263     PISSN: 03600025     EISSN: 15732762     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s11199-005-4203-4     Document Type: Article

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