Lesbian Friendships at Midlife: Patterns and Possibilities for the 21st Century

Journal of Gay and Lesbian Social Services

Volumn 11, Issue 2-3, 2000, Pages 1-32

  Weinstock, Jacqueline S ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF VERMONT   (United States)

Author keywords

Ageism; Family of choice; Family of origin; Friends as family; Friendship; Heterosexism; LBGTs; Lesbian; Midlife; Parenting; Substitute family

Indexed keywords

EID: 85009612873     PISSN: 10538720     EISSN: 15404056     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1300/J041v11n02_01     Document Type: Article

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