Forgiveness: A route to healing emotional injuries and building resiliency

Couple Resilience: Emerging Perspectives

Volumn , Issue , 2015, Pages 179-198

  Meneses, Catalina Woldarsky ^a   Greenberg, Leslie S ^b  

^a Private Practice   (Switzerland)

^b YORK UNIVERSITY   (Canada)

Author keywords

>Psychotherapy process research; Couples; Emotion focused therapy; Forgiveness; Shame

Indexed keywords

EID: 84942851722     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1007/978-94-017-9909-6_10     Document Type: Chapter

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