Beer goggles, catching feelings, and the walk of shame: The myths and realities of the hookup experience

Relating Difficulty: The Processes of Constructing and Managing Difficult Interaction

Volumn , Issue , 2013, Pages 141-160

  Paul, Elizabeth L ^a  

^a The College of New Jersey   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9780203810712     Document Type: Chapter

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